Many people might think that marriage is a solution to all problems, a shortcut. As a result, there are those who judge individuals who consider marriage as a mere "shortcut."
For someone who is used to being alone, has trust issues, a lot of trauma, frequently betrayed, distrustful of others, closed off, often abused, harmed, lacks a secure place, has no sense of belonging, feels ignored, and holds false beliefs about being unworthy of love, the barriers to letting someone in are high. Not just for marriage, but even forming friendships can be distant.
When all these issues are healed, and one realizes that marriage is a way of loving oneself (a need for love, companionship, sex, bonding, connecting, etc.), then the desire to get married can be seen as an achievement. It reflects that the person has started to trust others, is beginning to let people into their life, feels worthy of love, is willing to be somewhat dependent on others, is ready to commit, feels settled and comfortable with themselves, understands that life cannot be lived alone (that there are roles and contributions from others), and is starting to learn and accept (transformation of masculine energy to feminine energy).
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